I told him one day that I wanted intimacy in our sex and not just naughty, nasty, sex. Nope. The career narcissist is often ruthless, demanding, demeaning and highly successful. We just got on incredibly well and there was very obvious attraction. I was engaged to a NARC. Paul,she has done you a massive favour.Keep looking ahead, blinkers off but aware that people like this have nothing.Empty vessels, its all about looks and control with themremember,empty vessels make the most noise.These Narcs have no shame,conscience,esteem,love (for themselves (not in that way) or for others)..it is like dating a robot.They say all the right things at the right time but it is all done to manipulate. Narcissists often rush into marriage and then a remarriage. What a f*cking head cases! He is young and it is probably his imagination he says with a smirk. Daughter is born.

It was so insane. In case you were unsure of 4, 5 & 6, NO CONTACT WITH YOUR EXN. He even went so far as to tell me God gave him a dream about me and a guy in a cabin. He had destroyed my reputation to his family who would not speak to me for the entire time we were married. He had been married 3 times and had 3 other long relationships. Everything my ex accused me of, I just apologised for, agreed with her, and just went on my way. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Ive lost count of the times she promised to visit me and would then text me at the last minute to cancel. To him, there is no such thing as bad publicity. Filed for divorce after 5 yrs of dancing with the Devil. I was expecting them to be very affectionate and in love, since they were only 12 months into the honeymoon period. The narcissistic personality is unstable in each and every one of its dimensions. I was trying to bring stability to his life. I knew what he was but we were older and I thought he would be fun. Isnt is funny that Im not the one who rushed out and jumped into another marriage.. This My ex was engaged a month after i moved out We were still working on our marriage At least years what he said. She acted like a completely different person and declared how perfect things were, how their love was so unique and could overcome anything, how she couldnt bear to be without him, etc. It was as if he was trying to force me to make the decision to leave. He has convinced the entire family that I am crazy. Either their spouse is a completely codependent doormat (as I was sadly) OR their spouse is also narcissistic/sociopathic and just using him so they are both just using each other. Little did I know narcs equate stability with BOREDOM. He describes the ladys home, where they went what they do together in great detail. 2011-2012: Living nightmare of verbal, emotional, financial and psychological abuse.

It finally got so bad I had to leave and counselors told me that he had clear signs of sociopathic behaviors. My narc moved his married girlfriend in four days after ending our 18 year relationship. We are divorced 2 yrs now. Please dont feel stupid. When he saw I was alone and vulnerable, he quickly dumped his gf and starting to Court me. He proposed and gave me a ring. Truly I was like a door mat and made the fatal mistake of showing my love/emotional hand too soon (she said.) Yes mine remarried immediately after our divorce too. I read somewhere the Ns otherworldliness serves to keep them young looking. I brought my young child into this marriage. Think gratitude. I asked her 2 days ago on the phone if she would help me with the demons i have had in my head for years and she said ok. What a joke. I thank God we had no children. After we met a couple of times, she followed me on social media (Im not sure if it was intentional). The manipulation was very subtle but the flashes of rage was not.

Got a job for two months, complained that the boss was mean because she couldnt get away with being an arrogant spoiled brat at work, then ragequit one day. Im divorced now and he lets his new girl believe i did all kinds of crazy He said and did terrible things..m still calls me late at night when she isnt there from Nick numbers and leaves me messages about how we child still work it out Hed leave her and his kids.. Shes pregnant now with his fifth kid Thankfully i had no kids. My colleague married a female narcissist. We tried a reconciliation but his constant abandonment kept occurring. In 2011 I married him. Jump to four years later and our son who can now talk and express himself very well starts to talk about this other person that his father has been having him spend time with. The N. I was married to for 28 yrs just remarried. EXACT same scenario. If ever there was such a thing as virtual or cyber sex she excelled in it. NO CONTACT 5. Very abusive, cold, unaffectionate, enjoys insulting and humiliating him in front of people (then grinning at me, as if Im supposed to enjoy her abuse as well), openly admits she married him for the money, jokes about cheating on him and taking half his stuff if they ever divorce. Take notes for EVERYTHING! Sure, I would love to know what was real, and what was her just trying to make me jealous, but in the end, who cares. Do you think if she really liked him/was in awe of him shed modify her behaviour to suit? I was his 4th wife and less than 1 year after our divorce he had remarried on to wife #5. I had no idea why were were together anymore. I do not speak to him or even look at him although he still lives at home. August: Girlfriend has now assumed all of Dads parental roles and responsibilities. The behaviors of my ex- deteriorated into controlling and bizarre rants. His response to divorce is to walk away and not answer emails or calls from me or my daughter (the one he adopted). Within weeks she was shacked up with someone else, a guy she swore was just a friend when I asked her days before I left, lol, sending me emails and texts saying she was in Cabo, or the islands somewhere. If they cheat, you eventually find out and it destroys your confidence even more. He would take the light bulbs out of the lights and hid them, because he thought it was burning too much electricity. 2016: Leave the marriage. I really like your response. They break you down, accuse you of everything and turn it all on you acting like they never ever cared for you . My first marriage went along the path of codependent and narcissist. I am going through a divorce right now. Anyhow 3 months ago she came to my office and told me she wants a divorce, she does not love me anymore, and we separated on May 3rd. He is marrying her on the 30 yr anniversary of when he married his deceased wife.

Always! (Lets call it lazy or fearful?). So we just deal with it. He is remarried to a 28 year old who blames me for him disrespecting her. If they leave, at least you can get therapy and start over with a clean-ish break. I had three kids under 10 with one.Exactly one year after I divorced her (she had an affair and i found out), she gives the eyes to a work mate,they now live together in a big-ish house,car each etc etc . Why would a narcissist get married? Her contention to this day is that they were only friends and nothing else. I mourned for the man I thought I married meanwhile he was on dating sites before I left our marital home. When you find out youll naturally be shocked, then sad for both of them and then youll laugh and laugh and laugh and thank your lucky stars that it wasnt you. Aside from the surrealness, it hurts a lot. When I finally had the guts to finally get away from him, he refused to divorce me or sign paper. I myself have been divorced 3 times but for my poor choices. A few months after breaking up with him, went home from a local dance in my dads home town with someone else and moved in with him three months later (I was 15, my sister was 5). Commentdocument.getElementById("comment").setAttribute( "id", "a47bbeb8a5f45615a2f18fb7d2a5f33e" );document.getElementById("i2dc42b6e0").setAttribute( "id", "comment" ); Alexander Burgemeester has a Master in Neuropsychology. All the while my kids are all in the middle of this mangled mess, he begs her back after learning she was pregnant again for the third time and they go on a Family cruise Dec. 3, 2015 that ended in a altercation with my 13 year old daughter. October: Kids report Daddy is marrying the girlfriend on 10:4/17.

2017: July: kids report daddy has a girlfriend. Wed fight no resolution zero. He was living with his 3rd wife 5 months after we separated and living with his 4th wife 4 months after leaving his 3rd wife. So the next, very next day he filed for divorce, all the while for months earlier, telling his family total lies about me so they would hate me. NO CONTACT, NO COMMUNICATION 7. I asked her are just you and the girlfriend going and she and she said yes, just the two of them. I realized my husband was totally sabotaging any efforts I was making to make peace with his family. Its very hard not to feel jealous. And then the next day she just argues and calls me loser, stupid, etc. Anything whatsoever that you can say to the NARC, either verbally or in writing or through any third party, is simply giving your EXN a Supply, and you will just end up feeling pain. I am fresh out of a narcissistic marriage he remarried before the ink was dry ..I too feel as lakes does. The rest of the time she was sharing selfies of expensive holidays, her wedding, things he bought her publically, not just friends/family.

My ex is a classic, insecure narc. Im rid of her and she married the idiot. I was only responding to her overtures but of course was in head over heels very quickly. He will be 47 when the baby is born and his oldest biological child, whom he has had no relationship with since the age of 3, will be 22! If his new source provides him with the ability to obtain that which he could not achieve on his own, he will go to great lengths to secure this as a constant source of Narcissistic Supply. I was finally rid of him, I bought a house for my daughter and I. When he was served the papers the bad mouthing escalated and the ex girlfriend came out of the wood work. He pulled me in head over heels becoming everything I told him I had been hurt through my marriage to an alcoholic. So we have both just accepted the situation. I know why he apologises to random people for things she accuses him of, because I used to do it. The week before I left she was trying to get me to have her tubes unties. He STILL tried to get me back.. Why? I was in your exact situation a year ago. Your life is to be lived with respect to where you have come from but with the greatest courage to love yourself enough to move forward (and find a support system of friends that will help you). BC fails. Your next boyfriend will treat you like a queen and youll have learned your lessons. lol. She is an amazing person that has made the wise decision to leave me. Just bizarro! He had two kids both of different relationships. He was cheating with many women before her and I knew who he was seeing but this one was new. Well put, Ive never thought of it that way. I dont know the Narcissists new wife, but was friends with his first wife and she was a total door mat to him. Hell get bored and wholeheartedly focus on making the rekindled exs life miserable instead of yours. We were divorced 4 yrs ago. Leave all the emotions out (even if youre faking it till you make it), dont react to smear-campaigning, and use some Hollywood-style PR to get your life and sanity back by not giving him any form of supply at all (through reactions, emotions, facial expressions, etc.). My ex- drifted from job to job, career to career, mostly not working, but always lamenting what his purpose was. Get my tubes tied the day she is delivered in 2011. When we met wow, just the most incredible woman i had ever known. I am curious if he wouldnt have still been married woukd he have moved that fast with me? The week before I left she was trying to get me to have her tubes unties. even went on a smearing campaign with ex friends to talk bad about me and get discriminating knowledge about me. DONE THAT.Couldnt be happier now. Its like these people are clones of each other! September: kids report Girlfriend will be their new mommy.

From the narcissist that I know, they can maintain a second marriage IF the new spouse is a giver and feeds the narcissist constantly. I was mad of course, and she called him in front of me and said she cannot see or talk to him again. I know how perceptive children are, and if she is even a fraction as abusive towards him as she is towards her husband, then I really feel for the kid. Why is he still out to get me if he and his girlfriend are now free to be happy? Within weeks she was shacked up with someone else, a guy she swore was just a friend when I asked her days before I left, lol, sending me emails and texts saying she was in Cabo, or the islands somewhere. Slapped a ring on her finger after 4 months, moved into her house. Well she has been on and off since we separated like u would not believe. Im rid of her and she married the idiot. I signed a pre-nupt. So its not a huge stretch of the imagination to think she will end up running off with a younger model (if she hasnt already). Second, narcissists are always concerned about their image and narcissists to need people more than the typical person does. Her fourth marriage and she is only a few months into 43 years old! I was floored and told him he was nuts . It kills me. I left when I caught her in yet another lie. Everything my ex accused me of, I just apologised for, agreed with her, and just went on my way. This went on for months and we never even kissed properly. I believe he feels the same way. I caught her cheating red handed and left. I just told her congrats, and enjoy, and to let me know when her attorney had the divorce papers ready for me to sign. Paid 1/3 her rent and offered her a car, but she didnt want or need my help and told everyone else I abandoned her and her kids high and dryI left her with almost 10k in her account. And is now at my throat for custody. 2009:Moves me in to the house he bought for victim number 1. His kids will attend his wedding- I told them to stay out of the business of warning Ying- its none of their business. Good luck! He needed that status of me leaving him. Therefore, a narcissist will only associate with others of high status or intellect, for they feel ONLY these people can possibly understand them. But he says hes happy. Think Narc, think Medussa. He was charming, told me he loved me constantly and that he was a lucky guy . I was also full time employed as a Bank Manager. The woman he was grooming as my replacement didnt want him. An additional point to make is that the narcissist considers himself special and not understood by just anyone. Because you never move on, you just go forward and learn how to deal with the pain and agony of what this reptilian type people do to your life. He is such a complete loser and the girl isnt that pretty. The silent treatments started. I had a 4 yr relationship with a narcissist. 2013-2015: Hell day and night. Everything, that is, except for his work. A little background? He treated me and my kids like chop liver in my own house. She looks like a young Marilyn Monroe with high cheek bones a real trophy girl who, despite a very rough life and childhood looks exactly half her age. We adopted each others youngest kids about half-way through the 10 yr marriage (the others by then had gone to college). It took him a month to get me to go out with him and he moved in with me shortly thereafter. She hasnt left him yet (3 years and counting) despite constantly threatening him with divorce. He had just proposed to her two weeks ago and we were together 3 years. Hallelujah!!! I met the wife after a few months. He had his vasectomy reversed to conceive this child. All an act. Two weeks later and I see photographs of her new man on facebook. As long as her life continues to appear fabulous, she will keep this guy around. I know why hes making snapshot decisions, forgetting things, and acting like he no longer has his life together. To cut a long story short, she played with me for months on end like a cat would play with a sick/dying mouse. Their need for control is whats at play here, and since you took control by asking for a divorce first, he is trying to punish you and take back the control in any way that he can. Her fourth marriage and she is only a few months into 43 years old! Depending on how worthy the victim is in obtaining his goal, will also depend on how quickly the narcissist moves in their relationship. You asked: Any tips on what works best when your ex , a Narcissist, begins an onslought of lies after his narcissistic binge post remarriage? But I thought if I kept quiet life would be ok. After a 2 yr relationship. Look these pigs will never change and ladies look out bc they are master manipulators liars and cheaters. However, this same person (woman), is prone to cheating when her husband is not available (working a lot of hours). When they all (my kids too) moved in,he moved out for three months.Realising what he had gotten involved with. Kids report she has moved into the home. 2010: Hell has gotten even worse. Yet he gave them alllll too me. She called me back angrily and chastised me and hung up. We were together for 4 years and married for 1. So i asked her, have u been with any other guy since we separated and she said no, but she is looking and hopefully will fine a guy soon. Your european teaser was a Narc, you are correct, once a Narc always a Narc. There is almost nothing a narcissist wont do if he thinks it will bring him fame. It sucks what your going through but to find someone with the opposite traits as your narc will truly be amazing! I guess my question is, is this normal? If her husband ever snaps and retaliates, she threatens him with divorce. But neither of us have ever made a move. His answer was I want sex how I want it.too bad for you. Needless to say he was in a BIG Rush, I just thought because he loved me so much. Oozing with charm, passion, energy and joie de vivre I thought she must have been heaven sent to pull me out of my dark place. You will be better off in the long run. Thats because Im not the narcissist you tried to make me out to be. They are soon to be married and are plastering their gushing love all over social media. http://samvak.tripod.com/faq32.htmlhttp://getoveranarcissist.com/narcissist-narcissism-marriage/. What a f*cking head case! Good luck! Truly move on, dont wait for them to come back because if they do it will only be for self serving reasons. Lovebombing at its finest! Unfortunately, you are permanently bound to him because of the child you have together, which is the grip he is going to hold over your head & on to for dear life (only to try to sabotage you to your child in subtle and indirect ways). And why do they often rush to RE-marry? No, his divorce was final and we got married 10 days later.

Nine months later we were married, and a year after that I had a baby. Finally, it does not matter what the NARC says about you to anyone, they will be found out of you do this: STAND IN YOUR OWN TRUTH WITH DIGNITY AND SELF RESPECT, DO NOT LOWER YOURSELF TO THE NARCS DEPTHS OF HOPELESSNESS, AND REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE ESCAPED FROM A TERRIBLE EXISTENCE, AND THE ROAD AHEAD IS NOW CLEAR FOR AN AMAZING LIFE THAT YOU WILL HAVE. I couldnt understand how this man could have had two lives and I didnt know. I feel a certain amount of guilt knowing this marriage will end like the others have and there is nothing I can do or say to stop the destruction of another family. I divorced one nearly two years ago and it took him three weeks to replace me. I know it was weird of me to keep reading them, but its so strange to watch your own relationship being reenacted in front of you by two other people. I have to see him several days a week, which I cant get out of. So a week ago she went to china to visit her family and a girlfriend of hers accompanied her. How can someone who has a history of cheating and lying, who lacks empathy and compassion, and who has proven that he/she has no desire of upholding their vows get remarried? After 2 years of him struggling to get out of that relationship including her getting a court order to have him locked out of his homeyes, his homehe moved in with my daughter and I. He is now engaged to a Chinese immigrant who barely speaks English. Then one day she went she said to meet a gf of hers for lunch and then the library. He said he didnt like her and if he told her to bark like a dog she would amongst other things he said about her. No honesty. The most beautiful eastern european woman came into my life just over a year ago. As public opinion ebbs and flows, so does the narcissists self-confidence, self-esteem, sense of self-worth, or, in other words, so does his Self. She is the one who has filed each divorce and it seems like her past marriages do not end on a happy note. U will feel better. Run if you can; if not, your best bet is to go gray rock or No Contact (except when dealing with anything related to coparenting). My sister is now on her 4th marriage and she is a difficult person to understand. After our separation I found out many more disturbing acts he had committed in the years before we met.

What a bunch of pigs. Its almost as bad watching someone I love go through that torture as it was going through it myself. Then i found out she was still seeing him, she called again, in front of me again and said same thing, cannot see u again, but i found out again a month later she was stiil seeing him, fortunately i had taken a job long long ways away and the next week we moved. So he dumped me out of the blue and got a new girl 3 weeks later. Its like they seem to share the house, no family going on. I stayed in out of fear mostly. I broke up with him after that and found out later he was already seeing and planning a life with his next victim.

No. Please remain NC,my ex narc went through multiple engagements only to marry 4 months post our divorce. Divorcing a Narcissist is the ultimate challenge, The Narcissist Keeps Coming Back and Contacting Me, My Narcissist Boyfriend is Jealous of my Ex, When The Narcissist loses control over you. Let me tell you how this plays out. I have notes from 2012 about him and what hes been doing. So many may then why do you keep trying to contact me. Someday the kids will figure all this out. What Is A Pick Me Boy And How To Spot Him. I got an important call for her about an hour after she left and called her cell, which always if she missed my call she would call me back real quick, but not this day. Three months later, he found a new victim. Hes ill She enables him and hes disgusting to get and me But one day shell see i feel sorry for her. NOTHING. Since then she has totally confused me. Both adults change their relationship status on FB to engaged. Her oldest sons gf was pregnant, so she wanted a kid then too. How I was so inept and useless. He made up some elaborate story to make me look bad to everyone. Was hard now a year later i thank god for sending the whore to my life and freeing myself from an excuse of a man who lied took my money and treated me like dirt.thank you. I dont know why, but I just had that feeling, so I called the travel agent that she uses who is also a friend of mine and asked him, who else went, and he reluctantly finally told me my wife, her gf, and 2 guys. Loved his energy he was so exciting to be with. He played his cards well. You cry a lot. My son who spent a lot of time with his father continue to tell me things that happen and whenever I ask my husband, who I now understand is an N makes me sound as though I am crazy. The person I met is unrecognisible from those social media posts early on. That is a material thing which is easy to let go of. And i can say she is definitely narcissistic, when i checked this out on the internet after we parted, the signs of one could have been called her resume. They are incapable of loving anyone but themselves. He is trying desperately to get me and my now five year old son (who is his only child) out of the house. Its sickening what they do and how they do it, and get away with it. If narcissists are afraid of intimacy and commitment, why and what would possess them to want to marry so fast? I know it hurts, and I imagine you feel rejected, but those feelings will fade. He wasnt ready to cut me loose. He was a tenant of mine and was dating someone when I met him. I think she is also a NARC and they feed off of each other well, after the cruise and the Altercation she leaves and has not returned as of yet but comes on the weekends to be a wife and to let him spend time with their 7 month old daughter together. I stop birth control. The silence is a strange and cruel behavior that is harder to forgive, not the silence towards me, but the silence toward my daughter.

How did I become the enemy if he is finally getting his freedom? So I ask my husband about it who shrugs his shoulders and sais he has no idea what our son is talking about. I wonder how long they will last. No he told me when i called him that they did not meet on the bus that day, they had planned to meet few days before. Deceit. Then i said, honestly for me, did u cheat during our marriage, and she got all mad and loud and said i told you before no and hung up. But she spends all of his money, refuses to work (no kids), lives in the gym, and asked several women in our office if we knew any guys with money that we could introduce her to. I know why hes always exhausted or sick or acts like a walking zombie half the time. I was divorced from an alcoholic who later died of his disease. The narcissist does everything with one goal in mind: to attract Narcissistic Supply (attention). Ignore everything you here or read 2.

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